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ImageI was so moved by this picture when my mother shared it with me on Facebook. She took one look at it and instantly thought of me. I had spoken with my mom earlier that day about how I wanted to stop allowing my thought life to control my physical outcomes. I’ve spent most of my life entertaining self destructing thoughts and inevitably those thoughts had convinced me that I would fail at everything I’d ever try in my life. THAT’S HOW POWERFUL OUR THOUGHTS CAN BE! I have a God given talent as an artist but was always afraid to share my work with others in fear of rejection. I always had an issue with how I looked because I am so tall and lanky and because of a scalp condition, always had short hair. Needles to say I never thought I was pretty. Everything I started, I stopped before I could finish in fear of what would be expected of me. It took me five years between junior college and private school to complete my Associate of Science degree in computer technology. Afraid of failing, I never used that degree once I completed it. I was once approached about a modeling career. I simply responded, “I’m too shy.” I WAS AFRAID OF SUCCESS!

But a change came in my late 30’s when I experienced a new found faith in God. Over the last ten years I’ve fought my thoughts with what the Word of God said about me; “I am fearfully and wonderfully made” – Psalms 139:14, “I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me” – Philippians 4:13, and my favorite, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” – Jeremiah 29:11. These words have helped me these last ten years to let go of some heavy baggage that was slowing me down and making me tired both emotionally and physically. My baggage included FEAR, HURT, GUILT and LOW SELF-ESTEEM. Before I found my faith in God’s Word, these burdens plagued my 20’s and half of my 30’s. That’s a long time to live in fear!!!

Today, I am not saying that I don’t still feel fear, but I no longer cower under it’s gripping hold. I face it head on! I’d rather do things afraid than always wonder what could have been. Funny thing too, every time I step out ‘on the water’ I realize that the real fear was all in my head and I’d say to myself, “What was I so afraid of? This isn’t bad at all?” Sometimes I fail and sometimes I succeed. The difference between my 40’s and my 20’s and 30’s is that in my 40’s I at least TRIED. Now, I’m proud to say that as 2013 draws to a close, I have completed my Bachelor of Arts degree in Business Administration, I have an online art gallery showcasing all of my paintings, and I sold my first painting two months ago!

Whatever your faith or belief, I encourage you to quiet those negative thoughts clouding your mind. Don’t be embarrassed to talk to someone you trust; a pastor, encouraging friend or family member, or even a psychiatrist. There’s nothing to be ashamed of! this is YOUR LIFE we’re talking about! When you do this, the weight of all that baggage that has held you down will feel lighter. Why? Because you will look down one day and see that you’ve dropped every burden you carried, to the ground! The key to a happier 2014 my friends is that you DO SOMETHING. Put this plan into action to make a positive change in your life. I haven’t even personally met you and I can honestly tell you that you are worth it!!! So let’s drop that baggage and experience a wonderful 2014!!!

with love,

Yoli Fae


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ImageMy younger sister and I each have pet peeves that drive one another bonkers. We don’t always agree and sometimes can go a couple days with out talking to each other when life gets demanding. But the one person I know I can always share my heart with without being judged is my sister. She honestly is my Best Friend! When she hurts, I hurt. When she calls me with good news, I’m always excited for her. My sister and I have both struggled with our weight most of our lives. But with age comes wisdom, and after years of crazy crash diets, harmful pills like Phen Phen and poor self esteem, we both have reached a point in our 40’s where we LOVE who  we are and how we look. We’ve discovered that our health is paramount to our happiness! So, we keep each other accountable with healthy eating habits and exercise, and yes, we still enjoy our yummy foods like ice cream and chocolates, just in moderation. Today, we had our sister time at Mimi’s Cafe and enjoyed THE BEST onion soup and crab cakes…YUMMMMM!!!

I encourage anyone reading this, who is struggling with liking who you see when you look in the mirror to seek out someone you can truly trust to be your accountability partner. Talk to them about how you’re feeling and choose a small goal you both can achieve together…something that will make you feel good about yourself. Join a 5K, try to kick an unhealthy habit like smoking, commit to walking every evening, etc. The key is to get you out of that ‘victim’ mentality and to give yourself a small attainable goal you can reach with the support of a friend. I am so glad I have my sister:) Remember, it’s not about being skinny, but being healthy! So, who will be your accountability partner? I want to know because I’d love to also cheer you on! Keep me posted:)

Hugs, Yoli

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ImageI’ve been away from NMV for six months now dealing with issues in life that called for my undivided attention. I’ve since learned the value of following My dreams and not other people’s dreams for me. So, I’m back and I am excited about rekindling my passion that has always burned deep in my soul for helping people both young and old to realize how priceless and wonderful they truly are and to love themselves as they are and be the VERY BEST that they can be!

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dancing-in-the-rainThis Christmas season has been a very trying time for so many people in my circle of friends and family. From co-workers to facebookers, to relatives; the unhappiness of broken relationships, financial woes, sickness and even death have invaded their lives. Needless to say, most of whom I’ve tried to console just wanted the holidays to be over with. My brother, bless his heart, invited all of the family over Christmas day and told us to just bring ourselves. Gifts were not important. He said the best gift we could give each other this Christmas was our presence at the dinner table. He was so right! Even with the looming sadness and uncertainty of tomorrow, we gathered together under one roof and exchanged hugs, smiles, tears and support…the food, by the way was SPECTACULAR! We are all praying for a better 2013, and I believe that with continued love and support of family and friends, we will all be alright. I heard a wonderful quote years ago that read, “Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass. It’s about learning to dance in the rain.” I don’t know who wrote this but I love it and have learned to LIVE IT. I hope and pray anyone reading this will be encouraged to dance…whether the sun is shining or the rain is falling. Life…your life IS still worth living!

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giftWow, I feel like I’ve been away for a year, well it’s been almost eight months anyway. Busy going to night school M-F and working a full time job during the day totally exhausted me both mentally and physically! But I’m back on track…yay:) So, I’d like to wish everyone who has followed NMV (No More Vanity) a very Merry Christmas and an even better New Year! Please, please, please don’t get caught up in the monetary pressure often put on people to spend themselves into debt in order to buy gifts. YOU are the best gift you could ever give your friends and family! Remember, there’s only one you. One extraordinary YOU!!!

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