Feeds:
Posts
Comments

Posts Tagged ‘confidence’

1511354_10203438330831015_5899297131824040142_nIt is pointless for me to worry and stress over a situation that I cannot change. Still, the very existence of that situation and the effect it leaves on my daily life causes me to feel the stress. So, what do I do when I’m going through a difficult time? The answer. Go through it. Yes, going through something means that there is a point in time where I will walk out of that problem and hopefully come out stronger and wiser than I was when the problem first darkened my door.
You see, the last two months I have been walking around with a nauseous stomach and pretty much feeling very ill. I’ve pasted on a smile for my family and my co-workers and when they’d ask me how I was doing, I’d respond with a bubbly, “I’m blessed! How are you?” The question was, did I really believe that I was blessed? Apparently not. My faith and trust was under fire and I was allowing emotions of fear, depression, low self worth and even an evil foreboding of doom to enter my thoughts and manifest in my daily life. Examples: I’d get up out of bed three or four times throughout the night to check the lock on my front door. I’d freak out over any twinge of pain and immediately think the worst possible scenario, like having some incurable disease… and the list goes on.
One Sunday morning when I was visiting my parents, my father said to me, “I believe that the reason you haven’t been feeling well these last couple months is because you’re anxious. You need to learn that if you can’t change it, then you need to trust God to get you through it and just be peaceful.” Wow! I just sat there and looked at my wise, 79 year young dad and was amazed how profound his words were and how deeply they penetrated my spirit. He was so right. His words were simple; not at all mind blowing, but in my case, they were life changing.
The constant nausea, the worries of having ulcers and other physical ailments, the fear, depression, evil forebodings; they all stemmed from the fact that I took my eyes off of God’s hand and instead put my eyes on my situation. Yes, I’ve been going through some tough times in my life, a lot of it worrying about the people I love, but that Sunday morning, sitting in my parent’s living room, I needed to be reminded of whose hand I was holding while going through these hard times…Jesus!
It’s been about two weeks since those encouraging words from my dad and today we are in a new year…2015. I have since learned to sincerely cast my cares on the Lord and rest in His Promise to never leave me or forsake me. Yes, it would be easy for Him to remove the problems I’m going through. But how will I grow into a stronger more courages woman? How will I realize and even call upon inner strengths, gifts and talents deep within me if I never go through something? The most important question to me is, “How will I ever realize how much I need Him and how much He truly loves me if I never ever need to hold onto His hand?
There will always be problems my friends. I shared my story here and how I needed to be reminded of my faith in Jesus. I don’t know what you’re going through right now or if you have a belief in God. I do believe that we all need to believe in a power greater than ourselves, just to even have hope. I mean, could you imagine the hopeless feeling of thinking that we are our only savior? So, as I close this article, I pray that it will encourage and truly bless every reader. Whatever the burden, I believe in someone who can carry the weight of that burden and I pray that you consider taking hold of His hand. Please don’t allow your problems to continue to make you ill! Stress is said to be a silent killer. I wasn’t aware of the stress that I was under until I was forced to look at the physical toll it was taking on my body. If you can’t change something (and please know that you CANNOT change another person), give it to God and find some peace and some joy in your life. My joy these days has been sitting at my easel and painting. What are your hobbies? Find an escape that’s healthy and beneficial to YOU. The subtitle of my N.M.V. blog page says, “There’s only one YOU.” and that statement is so, so true! You matter. You’re a Designer’s original. Always find ways to be good to yourself spiritually, emotionally, and physically. It’s not being selfish. Selfish would be just giving up and falling into habits that could destroy you and even the people around you who do love you. It is about rising above life’s circumstances and living a victorious life that you were created to live! So, choose wisely who and what you allow into your life. You will make it through!
Sincerely,
Yoli Fae (N.M.V.)

Advertisements

Read Full Post »

New MeditatingThis has been a rough year! I had major surgery in May, my sister moved in with me in June, and recently my dad got really sick and ended up in the E.R. with what we were told was a stroke. Turns out it wasn’t a stroke but some bizarre infection.
As the oldest daughter (middle child), I have always been the ‘Fixer.’ Some might even refer to me as a co-dependent. Regardless of the label, somewhere along the line I lost ME. My hopes and dreams seem to mean very little to me lately. Not that I don’t still want them! It’s just that they seem so far away; almost unreachable.
I love my family but I have to come to the realization that I can’t be their savior. I can’t ref every argument, protect everyone’s feelings, and keep the people I love from being hurt. I can however have a say in guarding my own heart. It’s not selfish to think of me. If anything, it’s crucial to the survival of a fading reflection I see every time I look in the mirror.
So, how do I rekindle the fire within me and start chasing after my dreams again? I truly believe that I have to trust in one greater than all of us…yes God…and put those I love in His hands through prayer. I thank God that my dad is healed and I will always be there to help my parents. Still, I am in His hands as well and if I can’t even save myself, what makes me think that I can save anyone else! Time to dust off my dreams and make them come true. Time to find ME again:)

Yoli Fae

Read Full Post »

I had the best time this past weekend at the 7Th Annual Women of Purpose Conference in Chino! It refreshed me and reminded me that although it seems at times that my dreams and goals are so far away from my touch or may even appear TOO BIG or unrealistic, the FACT that I choose to dream and set goals means that I’m living my life ON PURPOSE instead of just letting my life go by, day in and day out. So, listen up friends (Yes, YOU I consider a friend), don’t give up on your dreams just because they may seem so far away. Pray on it, form a plan and then implement that plan. NEVER, EVER, EVER allow fear to keep you from living your life on purpose and making your dreams come true!!! purpose2Oh, and here is a BIGGIE; connect with people who encourage and uplift you. They don’t have to share your dreams. They just need to love you anyway and allow you to dream. Many times, no one but YOU will understand the road you have chosen to take. Still, it’s those select few who will walk that road with you. Embrace their friendship, because it is rare, and if this world has proven anything, it has proven that those things that are rare are valuable and yes, even PRICELESS!

God Bless,

Yoli

Read Full Post »

color run jump We came out today, all ages, shapes and sizes, and we ran/walked the Color Run or Dye. We are ALL WINNERS because we participated! I encourage everyone to do one of these 5ks! Getting healthy and fit starts with you getting out of that comfort zone and challenging yourself to be your BEST YOU:)

Read Full Post »

IMG_2335 (2) Well, this morning, I put in 2 miles on the treadmill and burned about 200 calories. I’m really testing my stamina in this summer heat and building up my leg strength, since injuring myself last November. I’m so excited! I’m also playing it smart, drinking lots of water:)

One thing I love about exercise is the mental healing it brings. Whether, I’m walking, running or doing a cardio workout like Turbo Jam or T25, I gain this feeling of power and feel indestructible. I really believe that is where even physical healing begins. You have to believe that you can beat whatever is plaguing your body. Of course, regular exercise and eating healthy foods like grains, fruits, vegetables and lean meats are essential to health and longevity. When you take care of your body you DO feel stronger and that affects your mind, emotions and even your spirit. That is why I exercise:) And it doesn’t matter what size you are!  What matters is your health. Remember, women are not all built the same. So, love the way God made you, choose healthy foods and get out there and take a brisk 30 minute walk!

Will keep ya’ll posted on my 5K…HUGS

Yoli Fae

Read Full Post »

ImageI am so excited about the Color Run in July. It’s so wonderful how this organization encourages health and wellness in every city they visit! This will be my first 5k and my friends (Fearless Chix is our group name) and I plan on taking tons of pictures. In preparation for my first 5k I’m walking/running a mile and will slowly work up to three miles. I’m glad this run isn’t timed because I may be doing a lot of walking…lol. Still it will be a blast! As far as nutrition, I’m sticking to fresh fruits, veggies, lean proteins and my favorite bread; 7 Sprouted Grain bread because it’s high in protein. As far as the junk food, well bye bye cookies and chips! Like I always say, “It’s not about being skinny. It’s about being healthy…AND HAPPY:)

Yoli

Read Full Post »

ImageOne of our biggest downfalls is an unhealthy comparison to other people. We want to be like them, look like them, and achieve what they have achieved. Now, don’t misunderstand. There’s nothing wrong with healthy ambition as long as that ambition is to be your BEST YOU! It’s also important to have mentors in our lives who encourage us to bring out our talents and to face our fears head on.

You will never be 6 feet tall, so stop hating your five foot frame and go buy some slamm’in heels and call it a day. You CAN however, be an awesome teacher, artist, mother or entrepreneur. Oh, here’s one…You will never be a size 4 if you weren’t born with the body frame to support a size 4. You CAN, once again, choose clothes that fit and flatter your body and choose to be healthy through good nutrition and physical activity. Bottom line is you need to decide today that you are going to be happy in your own skin. Trust me, I’m preach’in to the choir because I have to tell myself this every day.

Building self esteem requires daily doses of TLC. TREAT yourself right by removing the negativity from your life (people who tear you down, destructive habits that endanger your health). LOVE yourself the way you are right now. If there’s something you desire to change that will add to the quality of your life and that you CAN change, then go for it. If you need that mentor to remind you that you CAN make this change then give her/him a call! Lastly, CHOOSE to be happy. I know this sounds cliche but it’s vital. Despite the moods of other people and despite bad situations, we still get to choose how to react. Just say, “This may not be what I expected or even what I want right now, but I am going to have a good attitude about it so that if there is anything that I can do to make the situation better, I will already be in the right frame of mind to make it happen. Either way, I am going to enjoy this day.”

There’s a healthy comparison to others where we are working on bringing out the best in ourselves. There’s also an unhealthy comparison where we’d rather be someone else, and that will simply never happen my friend. So, start giving yourself some TLC and see how much you start to like who you see in the mirror. Once again, I’m taking my own advice. Have a great day:)

Yoli

Read Full Post »

Older Posts »

%d bloggers like this: