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New MeditatingThis has been a rough year! I had major surgery in May, my sister moved in with me in June, and recently my dad got really sick and ended up in the E.R. with what we were told was a stroke. Turns out it wasn’t a stroke but some bizarre infection.
As the oldest daughter (middle child), I have always been the ‘Fixer.’ Some might even refer to me as a co-dependent. Regardless of the label, somewhere along the line I lost ME. My hopes and dreams seem to mean very little to me lately. Not that I don’t still want them! It’s just that they seem so far away; almost unreachable.
I love my family but I have to come to the realization that I can’t be their savior. I can’t ref every argument, protect everyone’s feelings, and keep the people I love from being hurt. I can however have a say in guarding my own heart. It’s not selfish to think of me. If anything, it’s crucial to the survival of a fading reflection I see every time I look in the mirror.
So, how do I rekindle the fire within me and start chasing after my dreams again? I truly believe that I have to trust in one greater than all of us…yes God…and put those I love in His hands through prayer. I thank God that my dad is healed and I will always be there to help my parents. Still, I am in His hands as well and if I can’t even save myself, what makes me think that I can save anyone else! Time to dust off my dreams and make them come true. Time to find ME again:)

Yoli Fae

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You are blue! You are a deep, sensitive dreamer. You are usually laid back and calm, though, like an ocean, you can kick up a good storm, too! You are probably a daydreamer, who has his/her head in the clouds. You love spending time with your friends, and probably just go with whatever they want to do (you’re a go with the flow type of person, just like water!). You are emotionally inclined – unlike reds, who feel passionately and intensely, you feel things deeply and strongly. You are extremely loyal, and your friends can always count on you to be there for them. Blues are almost always very intelligent, and they strive for perfection in many areas. You may tend to beat yourself up for your imperfections. Other people admire you and strive to be like you, but you probably have a hard time understanding why. You can be light and fun at times, and other times deep and introverted. It just depends on your mood. Sometimes you throw people off with your random changes in disposition, but your friends love you anyways. You can be a very wise, intellectual person, but you have to pull yourself up out of your own thoughts first! You, in a nutshell: Deep, emotional, wise, loyal, slightly moody, feeling, sensitive, supportive, intelligent. BLUE!

Someone sent this to me and I thought that it described me to a ‘T’

Yoli Fae

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Depression is nothing new. It may not have been discussed openly in the 50’s and 60’s. However, the effects of depression were evident in Hollywood celebrities, such as Marilyn Monroe, an American icon whose life ended much too soon. Still, depression is not a respecter of generations.  As a matter of fact, almost 20% of teenagers will experience depression before they become adults.
All teens face some of the same issues: peer pressure, young pregnancy, a dysfunctional home-life (parents may drink or abuse drugs), puberty, death of a family member, low self-esteem, frustrations that come from living in a single-parent home, etc.  These types of pressures can bring on feelings of anxiety, fear, anger, and sadness.  Just one or a combination of these feelings can easily send a young person into a depressive state. For young girls dealing with weight issues, this pressure alone can bring on depression.  Especially when everywhere they look, only ‘thin girls’ are gracing magazine covers and appearing in music videos and sit-coms.  Some teenagers are able to pull themselves out of this depressive state.  Yet, many have a harder time doing so. This is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO BE ASHAMED OF! Teen years should be the most exciting time of a person’s life. However, none of us ask for the ‘hand we’re dealt’. We just live life the best way we know how. The important thing for struggling teens to know is that they are not alone.
If you are a teenager and dealing with feelings of worthlessness, emptiness, constant fatigue, increasing lack of ability to think or concentrate,  improper feelings of guilt, constant thoughts of death, or  entertaining the idea of suicide, there are services that are available to you 24/7.  According to (Teen Depression – Help for Troubled Teens, Copyright© 2005), less than 33 percent of teens suffering from depression seek help.  That number is too high.  Especially since there are health clinics and support groups that are readily available.  The good news is 80 percent of teenagers suffering from depression can be successfully treated if they take advantage of these services.  It just takes making that first step.  Below are some helpful resources:
LomaLindaHealth.org – Treatment for depressed youth
Boys Town National Hotline / 1-800-448-3000 (TTY 1-800-448-1833)
SHARE! 310-305-8878 GET HELP NOW! – 5521 Grosvenor Blvd., Los Angeles, Ca. 90066

Live Fearlessly,

Yoli Fae

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Tips for a Great Mental Outlook
*Count your blessings. “I know you have some.” * Visualize yourself at the finish line. Now start running towards it! * Don’t let one day go by without laughter. It truly adds heartbeats to your life. * Don’t say “no” to yourself. Let others make that mistake. * Keep a journal. There’s something magical about putting your dreams down on paper. They become tangible! * Always remind yourself that your body is a temple. You’ll be less likely to disrespect it.

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We don’t see ourselves the same way the world does.  Often times we are more critical of ourselves than others are of us.  The world is always going to have an opinion of you, good or bad.  If they like what they see, you get the job you and twenty other people interviewed for, you get the cute guy, you get to hang out with the popular people, or if you’re an American Idol contestant, you get through to Hollywood because Simon thinks you’re more attractive than the other contestants.  Forget what Simon thinks.  The question is, “what do you think of yourself?”  In season 5 of American Idol, Simon Cowell made a horrible comment about a contestant named Mandisa Hundley. Forget the fact that she had an awesome voice.  All Simon noticed was her size and remarked about needing a larger stage.  As offensive as this was, Mandisa confronted Simon Cowell, forgave him, and has gone on to be a successful gospel artist.  She did not allow one man, or an industry to decide her self-worth.

Words are sharper than any sword and can cut through to a person’s soul, which is why it’s so important to tap into what makes you unique and learn how to be comfortable in your own skin, especially around others.  When you try to look like or be like others, you give them this power over you.  What’s so dangerous about this power is that you will always be looking for others to validate who you are.  The truth is, no one can decide your self-worth or who you truly are but YOU!  When those people lose interest in ‘the fake you,’ (the person you’ve created to win their acceptance) and they will…will you recognize the person looking back at you in the mirror?  Psalms 139: 13-18 reads, “13 For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. 14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. 15 My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place.  When I was woven together in the depths of the earth. 16 Your eyes saw my unformed body.  All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be. 17 How precious to me are your thoughts, God! How vast is the sum of them! 18 Were I to count them, they would outnumber the grains of sand – when I awake, I am still with you (NIV).

Ask yourself, “What’s my talent, my style?”  Take a good, long look at yourself in the mirror and say out loud, “I am fearfully and wonderfully made.”  There are people who won’t accept you because of your skin color, your weight, or your style, and that’s their loss.  “Not everyone can be in your front row” – Author unknown. That bold statement includes YOU!  If you can’t accept who you are, then you’ve become your own worst enemy!  Look again at Psalms 139: 13-18.  Regardless of your faith or beliefs, THESE WORDS ARE TRUE.  They essentially tell you that yes; you are unique, one of a kind, and beautiful!  Wouldn’t it  be a shame to hide all of your talent, style and beauty in other people’s shadow?  So, what are you going to do?

Live fearlessly,

Yoli Fae



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